10 red flags and other dating secrets

Read their takes and ours—then make your own decision.

He Says: When we encounter a woman who's hesitant to share her age, we assume her life is on a strict, predetermined time line and her biological clock is ticking.

Maggie from New York City specified in her profile that she wanted to meet someone between the ages of twenty-five and thirty-five who lived in Manhattan, so receiving emails from sixty-five-year-old men who lived a hundred miles away was not amusing.

Someone who blatantly disregards what you’ve stated you’re looking for is simply wasting your time.

But the good ones are indeed out there, and luckily, the bad ones usually reveal themselves early in the process.

Watching out for these warning signs can make it easier to take a relationship from email to in-person.

We're concerned she'll want to define the relationship after three weeks and get engaged after three months.

That's a pressure cooker most of us would rather avoid.

If you receive an impersonal message that seems oddly like a form letter, it probably is.

We'd be lying if we didn't tell you we were appalled by a few of their so-called red flags, but they swear there's merit behind each one.

To prove it, we asked them to join us for a little debate here.

That is, until you receive a message or phone call confessing that the picture he sent wasn’t really him, and that he’s actually five years older than he claimed, but now that you’ve gotten to know him, that shouldn’t be a problem, right? The intent is to trick potential dates into falling for their “inner beauty,” but all this ruse really reveals about someone is that he’s a liar.

People who employ this tactic generally aren’t tender souls who are afraid of rejection; they’re just not confident enough to be themselves.

Some brazen daters even post contradictory information right on their profile (“I’m really forty, even though I listed my age as thirty-five”), as justification for trying to show up in more searches for “men over six feet tall,” or “women under forty.” Presenting oneself in the best light is one thing, but outright lying is quite another.

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