While dating, it's important to keep your eyes wide open.
If you're afraid to bring it up while dating, that is not a good indication of future success.When you date someone, there are bound to be a few little things that you'd like to change. According to the latest research findings, 1 in 5 teenagers are being physically or sexually abused by their partners. A therapist can help you understand the tactics the abuser used to make you believe that the abuse was normal. He suggests that, "When we marry, it will be ideal if in relation to our parents (1) we are essentially free from them--emotionally independent individuals--so we do not have to make decisions and live our lives to please them; (2) we are clear about what is particularly true of our relationship with our mother and father, and what is true in relation to our spouse; and (3) we have established a relationship with our parents in which they will not intrude in our marriage, will not dictate to us in any authoritative ways, and yet we stil maintain a closeness and connectedness to them." Some people wear their heart on their sleeve; others rarely give you a peek.Here are a few that you probably can't change (and that you probably don't want to live with your entire life): Your boyfriend/girlfriend:a)is critical of your familyb)is critical of your friendsc)yells at youd)blames you for all of relationship problemse)avoids showing emotionsf)won't solve problems with youg)doesn't like your familyh)doesn't like you spending time with your friendsj)wants you to do things that you aren't comfortable with If you have observed one or two of these warning signs, think long and hard about continuing this relationship. Warren suggests that many dating couples, "simply have not walked together through a variety of circumstances and situations necessary to really know someone." He recommends that dating couples should have multiple experiences doing a variety of activities together, both enjoyable and unenjoyable. 5) Learn as much about abuse as you can so you can be better prepared on how to deal with it. Abuse hurts the self-worth of both the victim and the abuser. This can be especially frustrating if that someone is your boyfriend or girlfriend; you cannot read how he/she feels about you.And make important life decisions -- like marriage -- based on what is right for you and your life, not on what others feel is right for you. If you feel you are being cheated on, be proactive; talk about it.Let your partner know that you won`t tolerate their cheating; make them choose between you and the other person. Unfortunately, in a dating relationship, there are two people involved who both feel very personally (and often very differently) about the subject.He writes, "Why would anyone select a marriage partner in order to please someone else?