I am one very lucky woman to have had him in my life.Here's a link to a discussion about Aspergers from a fellow Fishy....with a few descriptions of what it's like to have this syndrome.
Open upfront communication to make sure he understands your intentions is the key. No, my son doesn't have cerebral palsy, but he is also handsome, intelligent, and confident. He died of an aneurysm that was totally unrelated to his cerebral palsy.Now no one right off the bat notices he's "different". I tell him he might have to work harder, or do it differently.While he was in treatment, strangers saw the 2 full leg casts, and MANY were rude to me. His disability is physical, he's sweet tempered, and smart.Many of the people I work with have extraordinary abilities in one or two areas--I can't tell you the number of people who have incredible memories for names and dates for example.Regarding bringing it up with him, my general sense is that this is fine if done in the right setting and with the right tact.Don't worry a great deal about the label, such things are fluid, talk to him more about what makes him different, if he ever needs extra help, etc. If you are going to date somebody it is extremely important that you have a very strong sense of personal ethics and boundaries. When we first started dating, I was curious about his condition; so I asked him what was wrong. He had no problems with it, and he even told me if he had the chance to change his condition, with surgery, he wouldn't!