It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
Our subconscious tells us that it’s rude not to answer a question so your chances are increased ten fold by just asking.
Unless you are actively seeking a partner of a specific faith, then it is probably a good idea to leave out any religious words in your first message.
The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.
Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.
Strange how in the world of dating we have always been told that self confidence is extremely attractive, but the opposite holds true with regards to online dating.
Putting yourself down or being a little shy or awkward can come across rather endearing.
And this couldn’t be more true when it comes to contacting someone online.
Surprisingly, though, come across as run of the mill and perhaps a bit boring.
So while you should avoid using netspeak too much, using slang or an unusual greeting is considered a great move.
Presumably men prefer a more confident approach from a woman online, and ladies the opposite, but we certainly don’t suggest going overboard.
A little awkwardness might work, but too much and you’ll seem more Mr Bean than Ryan Gosling.
I know this is not marketing school but, like a marketer, you are trying to reel someone in.