He has no idea what to write in his first email to you, and he’s competing with hundreds of men for your attention.
Be patient, write a better profile, and learn not to get so frustrated with men, and you can enjoy online dating a lot more.
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As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.
Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.
There’s nothing unique, memorable or distinguishing. One of my favorite usernames was The Goose Whisperer, written for a client named Bobbi in 2005. So if you’re wondering how to come up with a clever name that gets attention, and attracts a like-minded person with a great sense of humor, I have an exercise that can help you come up with usernames just like the ones I mention above.
Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
My username combines my first name and a nearby street.Usually I’ll steer clear of someone’s name for the same reason I’ll steer clear of their profile …it reflects that we have wildly different interests.Do women have it a lot easier than men, and do hot people in general have it the easiest? Millward created 10 fake OKCupid profiles with similar sounding usernames, with the same written profile, personal stats, level of education, etc. Each account had a different photo of a man or woman of varying attractiveness. However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.