A substance abuse problem changes the way a person looks at the world, and treatment does much the same thing.
A lot can change due to drug and alcohol addiction, and successful rehabilitation entails rebuilding a person’s life.
Her experiences and her treatment taught her that a partner who could respect and support her sobriety would also respect and support her as a romantic partner.
It is not an easy lesson for anyone to learn, let alone someone in recovery, but the way to a healthy relationship is to take it “very, very slow,” in the words of a sexoligist and licensed addiction counselor.
After the inevitable relapses, she recommitted herself to her treatment program.
Newly sober, she didn’t date anyone for eight months, giving herself time to recognize the red flags that her earlier self was not ready to see.
For anyone going through treatment, relapse is always a possibility.
Additionally, “normal” sober dating can seem boring by comparison.
A person in recovery can still well remember the tension and drama of a relationship affected by substance abuse.
But his first forays into sober dating were disastrous; he dated “messed up speed freaks” for five years, eventually coming to understand that even without a drink or drug in his hand, the lure of spending time with people who were on drugs themselves was attractive – even, to use his words, “sexy.” Top of Page Why is the pull so strong?
As any person going through recovery will say, being sober can be incredibly difficult.
Whether repairing the bridge to a spouse or romantic partner, or forging ahead with a new person, a sober person has to give the relationship a chance to develop.