I just want to point out to you something that you might not have considered as a woman; how damn difficult it is to hit on you from scratch. Hm, as someone who despises IM and always has (I think I can count on two hands the number of times I’ve ever IM’d, and half of those were for work, where our front office person uses it to check and see if we’re at our desk before sending an appointment back) I can’t really relate to this.However, I know that most people can’t type as quickly as me, so I’d imagine that at least half of these folks don’t feel like they can keep up (especially men, who have larger fingers that make it more difficult to use a keyboard).And “Sorry I’m not talking more” rather than just talking instead of apologizing but STILL not talking. We tingle in awe at a really good one and roll our eyes at the generic ones. People like you – smart, successful, articulate writers, doctors, lawyers, professors, CEOs…I never get to know these people and just find myself annoyed at even having to fake interest in the “conversation”. Do I suffer through the dullness and hope for a first date that might be better? I mean, literally, you would have to be insane not to fall head-over-heels for me after about a half-hour of IMing. I could be wantonly flirting with you to pass the time post-divorce. Yet it stands to reason that the best writers/marketers are not necessarily the best people, and moreover, that among the vast majority of people with generic profiles, there are undoubtedly many gems. with generic profiles that don’t give a hint of their personalities.The most conversation I get is “What do you want to talk about?” which I think just seems lazy, making the other person do the work.Dear Patti, You haven’t lived until you’ve IM’d with me. There’s a good number who are just not skilled at these particular tasks.It may be second nature for the Undisputed Heavyweight Champion of Online Flirting (me), but for a great guy who is more comfortable working with his hands, he’s outside his comfort zone.
Since the launch of Tinder back in 2012, and with people bored of long drawn out profiles and endless messaging back and forth on traditional dating sites, there is no denying that dating apps are now the go-to method if you want to meet someone online these days.Which sounds complicated but simply means if you’ve been to an event the night before but left without that hot guy’s number?No problem, ‘app’ him up the next day to continue the conversation. Double The dating app as seen on Dragon’s Den, Double takes the awkwardness out of that first date by allowing you to bring a friend – even the profiles are plus one.This isn’t even counting the guys who’ve never heard of proper grammar and spelling.The conversation is always filled with small talk – hello, how are you, what’s up, not much, just chillin’ – and nothing beyond it.(By the way, I hired a guy to put together my office furniture today. ) As a prolific online dater who could literally conduct two IM sessions simultaneously without either woman knowing I was otherwise occupied, I struggled at my attempts to turn water into wine. Next time you’re out, go to a bar, find a really cute guy that you’d love to meet and approach him.