And then I met my boyfriend – on Tinder, a dating app – of all places.Like most people, I told my friends, “it just kind of happened.” The first time those words left my mouth, I realized I was saying exactly what I wouldn’t have wanted to hear just three months prior.
Along with my own research and intuition, I wanted to know what we all have in common, what we don’t, and how to pass on the best advice to those who are still looking for their special someone this Valentine’s Day. Figure Out What You Actually Want: Through the good and the bad, every experience only leads you closer to figuring out exactly what it is you’re looking for in a significant other – something Shawna, 42 and divorced, is learning every day.
I think being at peace with someone’s differences and allowing that to be the reason you walk away rather than it being something you change, is really empowering.
Every time you find the wrong person and let them go, you get closer to finding the right person! Date Off the Grid – When times are tough and you feel like there’s nobody left to meet, go somewhere in the area you’ve never been – in fact, give someone a chance who isn’t your so-called ‘type.’ Often times, the person who’s right for us in the end is not always who we envision for ourselves, and it’s important to be open to getting to know people. I am glad I gave him a chance, because he is more mature than most older men!
I know he is out there; it is just a matter of him finding me.” And while that process can sometimes last longer than one would hope, take it from 58-year-old Patricia, who’s been both divorced and widowed.
Currently re-married, she met her present husband online.
“Don’t just go to the same bars; be adventurous and try new things and places! “Also, go outside of your normal ‘box.’ You will be surprised who you can meet when you open yourself up to new things and types of people.” 5.