I realized that Jake was only here for a summer and decided that someone who was living near me only temporarily was not someone I was interested in seeing.I gave Ben, a student at a Boston-area law school, my phone number, and from there, we started texting back and forth, eventually scheduling a date.Christine has little income so she wants to find a guy with some money. Well-employed people tend to be too busy to do that. These are informal workspaces for engineers that have an alternative vibe. I feel she’d meet successful guys whose values aligned with hers by volunteering to serve at the registration desk or as a server at a fundraiser for a cause she believes in: environmentalism, education, whatever. Trader Joe’s also has that somewhat alternative feel that matches Christine, especially if she chooses to shop at a Trader Joe’s in Berkeley or Oakland (very liberal cities) rather than nearby Lafayette, which is moderate.Or they live in a nice place and so would rather hang out there. Right on a nature walk, for example, a Sierra Singles hike, Meetup hike, group backpacking, or some such. Christine loves jewelry, so if she frequented a maker space, ostensibly to learn how to make jewelry using their fancy equipment, I could picture guys flocking to help her. Guys who spend 0 a plate have money and a heart. (Of course, if my client wasn’t so liberal/alternative, I’d suggest Lafayette.) Before ending the session, we spent a couple minutes on appearance. Otherwise the relationship will be based on an illusion, which you sure don’t want to try to keep up forever. Years ago I used to volunteer for a couple of non-profit fundraisers. I helped out with the registration, welcoming and auctions.“The demographic we’re targeting has the money to spend and will spend it,” she said.Christine is beautiful, warm, and wants to get married. I felt she would do better exploring in-person--She exuded a warmth and beauty I sensed couldn’t be captured well enough online.In fact, the biggest thing the money brings to The League is time — Bradford can now afford to patiently expand her business as it gains traction among singles.
The League just launched in San Francisco in November, and unlike most consumer products, it’s not going after a massive user base.Right would more likely be the type who would spend little or no time in online dating.Besides, many great people are too busy to spend a lot of time doing that online dating dance: all the screening of profiles, email exchanges, and in-person meetings only to find that they’re quite different from the person they portray in their profile. She radiated spirituality and she suggested meditation retreats, ashrams, healing groups, Esalen, “journeys,” But I’ve found—and there are many exceptions--that while many women who are “together” have a significant spiritual life, many guys who are deeply involved in such matters, tend to have, let’s just say, more than their share of issues. People who shop at Trader Joe’s tend to be careful about what they eat but also watch their budget, unlike at Whole Foods whose prices are astronomical and attracts more than its share of spendthrifts.And volunteers are more likely than average to have a good heart, and I felt that Christine really had one and needed to meet a guy like that. They didn't want to be seen talking to an outcast, money manager or lawyer.They only spoke to people with whom they worked with, already knew or had been formally introduced.We went bowling and he proceeded to go full Israeli commando on an employee for having the audacity to deny us bumpers.