If you are someone who wants or wanted to be a mother and it isn’t or didn’t work out (for whatever reason) please come and join us in the our private, global, Gateway Women Online Community. Neither a bitter spinster nor a dried up old hag, Jody puts her heart, mind, and soul into lovingly and mischievously subverting the stereotype of the ‘childless woman’. Jody Day is a British author, trainee integrative psychotherapist and the founder of Gateway Women, the global friendship and support network for childless women.
She’s a founding member at (Ageing without Children) and a former Fellow in Social Innovation at Cambridge Judge Business School.
We know you’re only trying to help, we know you mean well.
But please stop and actually start treating us like grown-up women again, not an embarrassing problem to be fixed. She set up the Gateway Women friendship and support network in 2011 to support, inspire and empower childless women as they develop meaningful and fulfilling lives without children.
I did meet a couple of interesting men but one was too ready and one not ready enough and well, that was that.
As someone who works for herself and runs a women’s organisation, my life is pretty testosterone free and very nice that is too!
But there were no role models in the culture – only stories of women so desperate that they were still trying to have babies in their 50’s and beyond.
A full and meaningful life as a woman who wanted children and it didn’t work out? Which is one of the reasons that I now curate a Gallery of Childless & Childfree Role Models on Pinterest.
You’ve heard every piece of advice, countless times.
Very soon it will be the UK’s third National Fertility Awareness week which is being organised by Infertility Network UK, the British charity which supports those undergoing infertility treatment.
Cue lots of ‘miracle baby stories’ in the press about couples that despaired of ever having a child but who managed thanks to the help of this amazing science.
Yet, for some women this is not a situation they chose, but rather one that they’ve ended up in because they’ve made intelligent, honourable choices and behaved with decency and morality towards others.
Many of them have cared for vulnerable family members through their fertile years, have refrained from getting pregnant ‘accidentally’ without a partner’s consent and have worked hard as members of their families, workplaces and communities and have contributed to society as taxpayers.
It’s called ‘social infertility’ and it’s affecting a huge number of women in their 30s and 40s in the UK.