As a human being who finds it very easy to adjust to major cultural differences, I wasn’t surprised that in just a matter of weeks, I was able to unlock level 2.It wasn’t difficult because Israeli men are usually straightforward and spontaneous.BTW, do you have a problem swearing in your posts or is it against the community blog rules?You are only off by one letter so might as well go all the way lol In further studies and real life interactions, I found out that some are obliging themselves to pay because they wanted to get something in return from the girls.This level entails the hardship of looking away while walking at Allenby and the rude practice of staring.Women don’t want to be cat-called but seriously, when flocked together, we are the worst in talking about men, most especially if you are single and foreign in a country where men are extremely physically attractive.In many cultures it would be rude or a status thing to let the woman pay.I have heard that Italy is the same with men in a sense that they don’t have long term relationships and run from marriage or something deeper.
100% loyal readers of this blog are very open-minded but at the same time, 100% of passers-by will choose to find the way I write my experiences a grave stereotype to mankind. And I’m sure you love having a personal butler that morning. I have no problem with buying drinks because I’m enjoying someone’s company. You make it sound like men should be at your service and do whatever you want. To be honest, I’ve offered to pay many dates but then they always insist.
Every Israeli man is on the opposite side of the meter. To make it more clear, let’s visualise the lowest and the highest measurements of a meter: Liz Gilbert said that every city has a word: Vatican is “power”, New York is “achieve”, Los Angeles is “succeed” and Rome is “sex.” I differed when I got to know Israel. The “coolest” kids on the block enjoy this type of “dating.” ( Being in dates multiple times is inevitable but when the bond is building deeply to the direction of eventually being in a relationship (aka going to the normal parameter), they tend to walk away even if nothing is wrong. But you know, different humans, different life dynamics. Not that there are many fishes in the Mediterranean sea but that’s what I do. But to control the situation is a total turn-off for me. Do I still have the energy and heart to love and accept everything that is happening around me? For me, if a guy insists and rejects my offer, it means he really wants to do it. That was what the Israeli reader comment was implying. I don’t have any problems that Israeli men are paying.
In general, when you are dating an Israeli man, they keep the tradition of charm, allure, and passion that will make you fall head over feet. Sure, they might be the most chill people I’ve ever met but not when it comes to relationships or dating. They just don’t want to engage nor participate in a deeper level of intimacy because of a myriad of reasons. I am a pure believer of the going with the flow adage. If it happens to you, don’t be confused if one day, they want to stop seeing you and couldn’t explain why. It seems like it’s a responsibility for them when in fact, we can all just chill and avoid ruining something beautiful. It was still hard to believe that I am making a life here, creating relationships, having neighbours you can share meals with, going to a bar where everyone addresses you with the first name, etc. My only concern is that they feel like they have to do it by default because of their gender.
Strange, It seems to be becoming popular as women are standing up to mens double standards of dating. So happy to be out of the dating scene, I hated it so much 🙂 I’ve been married for nearly 15 years, so dating has long been the furthest thing from my mind.
But I don’t think that I could deal with the nuances of dating someone from another country.
Relationships are hard enough without adding cultural differences in to the mix.